Being a Mom, Not Just a Mom.

Being a Mom, Not Just a Mom.

One of the biggest decisions my husband and I have made is for me to be a stay-at-home mom. That’s right, WE made that decision. It took action and sacrifice from both of us. It meant my husband had to get a job that pays enough and has good benefits (insurance, retirement, etc.) so we would be able to afford living on one income. My husband loves carpentry work, but building houses wasn’t going to pay our bills. So, he got a job at a plant, and even though its not his most favorite way to pass the workday, it allows us the lifestyle we prefer. And two months before our first child was due, I retired.

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A gift from my husband!

After Big B was born and I’d meet someone new, I found myself having this conversation quite a bit:

Them: “So, what do you do?”
Me: “I don’t work, I’m a mom!” (Said in a rather ecstatic voice!)
Them: “Oh, but you do work!”/”There’s no job more important!”/”That’s better than any paycheck!”

Stop already. The tone of your voice could not *be* more condescending.

I get it, you want to make me feel valued, like my life still holds importance even though I don’t financially contribute to my family. Guess what? I already know that. I’m very proud to be a stay-at-home mom. Not because I think I’m better than working moms, but because my one main goal in life is to be a mom. I don’t need strangers reminding me that I matter. I know I matter. I also know that every mother who chooses to work, matters. I know that every mother who makes decisions every day in order to care for her children the best way she can, matters.

On the other hand, ladies who stay home, stop saying “I’m just a mom.” That takes so much value out of what you do. Do people say “I’m just a doctor” or “I’m just a judge” or “I’m just a teacher”? No. Being a mom is not something to be ashamed of. Own it!!

Happy Mother’s Day to all you lovely moms out there. If you work or if you stay home, you matter! Just look into the face of your child if you need more proof!

I Learned Something About Myself

I Learned Something About Myself

I have a stack of books on my nightstand. Its worth noting that my nightstand is not a nightstand at all. It’s a vintage sewing machine that is pulling double-duty, or, more accurately, acting as a stand in since it does not currently function as a sewing machine. (The belt broke.)

Back to the stack:

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That’s a lot of readin’!

I recently decided to tidy up my corner of the bedroom. After dusting off the basket of books in the floor (yes, really) and gathering my newest additions from the kitchen table, I stacked the yet-to-be-read books on the sewing machine. As I looked at the books I longed to read, I had a major awakening. I seem to gravitate toward autobiographies. This may be a “so what?” moment to you, but it really shocked me! I have never really been interested in them before. I usually enjoy fiction, mostly of the Nicolas Sparks variety. (I set reminders for when the next one is set to be released!) I like to escape into fantasy worlds that have a happy, predictable ending. What can I say?

Let’s explore my nightstand!

Good Talk, Dad by Bill and Willie Geist – My husband got me hooked on the Today Show, and we both fell in love with Willie. He seems so down-to-earth with a splash of humor thrown in for good measure. When the show did a special segment about the book he co-wrote with his father, I thought “Hmm, interesting…”. I’m about a third of the way through this book and have confirmed, its freakin’ hilarious!

My Story by Elizabeth Smart (with Chris Stewart) – I remember the abduction of, search for, and ultimate recovery of Elizabeth Smart. I was in high school at the time and when I saw her book in the store I thought twice about purchasing it. I knew some of her story from the news and wasn’t sure I wanted to read about it more in-depth. Ultimately I decided to give it a try. Time will tell on that one.

This Live I Live by Rory Feek – I had heard of Joey and Rory Feek’s music and began following Rory’s blog when Joey became sick. I would read his updates and ball my eyes out as I put my toddler to bed at night. I still follow his updates, but I’ll only read this book once I stock up on tissues!

The Bridges of Madison County by Robert James Waller – I found this little gem at a book sale a few months back. Honestly, I only bought it because I knew it was a classic and I’d never read it. Don’t gasp too hard, but I’ve never even seen the movie! Plus, I liked the cover. (Definitely one of those people!)

Diary of a Player by Brad Paisley and David Wild – There is only one reason I bought this book. Brad is from West Virginia. I am from West Virginia. West Virginians support West Virginians. Period. (I have at least 4 books I’ve bought solely because the author or illustrator is from West Virginia.)

The Last Summer (Of you & Me) by Ann Brashares – Remember how I said I usually like to read fiction? Ann Brashares is the lovely woman behind the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants series. I LOVED that series. I found this at the aforementioned book sale and did a little happy dance inside. 🙂

Since taking this photo, I’ve added even more books to my list (because what mom doesn’t have all the free time in the world to read???) I ran across an article about Bunmi Laditan and how she declared her kid done with homework. Upon further investigation, I discovered this funny lady was releasing a new book in a few days titled Confessions of a Domestic Failure. This seemed right up my alley! But wait, a new book? This must mean she’s written previous books. A quick search confirmed she was the author of a book I’ve always been curious about: Toddlers are A**holes. So there’s two more added to the stack!

What’s on your reading list?

Welcome to Ramblings!

Welcome to Ramblings!

Hey there! I’m very new to this blogging world so you’ll have to overlook and forgive any mishaps on my part. I’m a 30ish-year-old wife and mom of 2 kids, Big B and Little S. We’ll pretend those stand for Big Brother and Little Sister. 😉 I live in a rural area about 5 minutes from a small town and 15 minutes from a bigger one – read: it has a Wal-Mart. Most of my neighbors are family-by-law, friends by choice. We have a small flock of chickens and some community dogs that make the rounds daily.

One thing I’m going to be up front about is something that is extremely important to me. My faith. I am a Christian. If you don’t want to hear the truth of God’s Word, stop reading now. I will not apologize for my faith and will not sugar-coat my beliefs. If you don’t agree with me, that’s fine, but this blog is not intended to start debates. As the title suggests, I intend to ramble on about my rural life as a housewife. Hopefully someone finds it as amusing as I do!

I’ve never really enjoyed ‘introducing’ myself; I never know exactly what people want to hear. So, I’ll just list some random interests and maybe the internet world will see me a little more clearly. Some things I like: crafting, crossword puzzles, trivia shows, gardening, reading, and laughing. The most important thing to me (besides God) is my family. I live to be a wife and mother. There is nothing in this world I would rather do. Sure, I went to college, obtained a degree in early childhood, and really enjoyed teaching preschoolers. But now my focus is family. Maybe one day I’ll go back to teaching, but the future is too fuzzy to worry about right now!

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